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“Another Aspect of the Tangles that Married Gay Men find Themselves in, what Happens to the Other Man? ……”

Image 37Periodically, myself the author of an explosives and controversial memoir “Forbidden Love with a Married Man; E-Mail Diaries.” and founder of several support groups and international lecturer, receives e-mails from the “other man” or the “other woman”. These terms, because of their link to an affair outside the marriage, tend to have a stigma attached to them. Perhaps their rights will change with time. These people, emotionally or romantically attached to another person who is already married, are often more concerned about the well being of that person, than about their own well being. That is ok to a point, but there is an old saying: “Never, ever get involved with a married person”This paints a particularly black picture, but this is deliberate. Many single people become the “other person” in a love triangle because of what their heart is telling them, but more often than not, because they do not know the whole truth about their new friend, who has withheld the information that they are already married. This is where the lies start. They are not necessarily intentional lies - they are what they want the other person to hear. With the discovery of the marital status, there could be promises that the married person will leave their spouse and children, and come and live with the “other man or person”. Such promises are rarely fulfilled. The reason for never ever getting involved with a married person is that in the majority of cases, the married person will never leave the marital nest unless forced to do so. They want their cake and eat it too. This can lead to a lot of pain and hurt for the “other man”, to frustration and to lost time, when they could be perhaps finding someone else who is not married to spend their life with. So think twice, unless you are married yourself, to becoming the “other man”. That “other person–man” has feelings just like anyone else. Trust me. I was there. I have a published diary to prove it…!!!
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Monday, April 08, 2013

Gay 'Top' And 'Bottom' Roles Generalized By Stereotypes, Archives Of Sexual Behavior Study

pastedGraphic.pdfGay 'Top' And 'Bottom' Roles Generalized By Stereotypes, Archives Of Sexual Behavior Study Finds
A new study aims to reveal new details about the much-debated topic of "top" and "bottom" roles in intimate gay relationships.
"Accurate Identification of a Preference for Insertive Versus Receptive Intercourse from Static Facial Cues of Gay Men," which is published in the April 2013 edition of Archives of Sexual Behavior, found that "observers were able to discern men's sexual roles from photos of their faces with accuracy that was significantly greater than chance guessing."
The article continues:
"In Study 2, we determined that the relationship between men’s perceived and actual sexual roles was mediated by perceived masculinity. Together, these results suggest that people rely on perceptions of characteristics relevant to stereotypical male–female gender roles and heterosexual relationships to accurately infer sexual roles in same-sex relationships.
Thus, same-sex relationships and sexual behavior may be perceptually framed, understood, and possibly structured in ways similar to stereotypes about opposite-sex relationships, suggesting that people may rely on these inferences to form accurate perceptions."

You can check out the full journal article here.
Researchers Konstantin O. Tskhay and Nicholas O. Rule noted that the "findings are interesting because they suggest that people may tend to generalize theirstereotypical perceptions of heterosexual gender roles to other forms of sexual relationships."
"People may therefore interpret a variety of relationships through the lens of conventional male–female sexual dichotomies," they added, noting that it was possible that "similar effects could be observed in non-sexual relationships, such as friendships and more general interpersonal interactions."
As Scientific American pointed out in 2009, a team of Centers for Disease Control and Prevention-affiliated scientists led a similar study on sexual roles among gay men. That study, which was titled "Sexual behavior among HIV-positive men who have sex with men: what's in a label?" and first published in a 2003 issue of The Journal of Sex Research, found that self-labels were meaningfully correlated with actual sexual behaviors.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

More on Coming-Out

More on Coming Out
For people of a certain age, initial attempts at coming out are most likely awkward at best and devastating at worst. First there was the struggle to become comfortable enough whit your own sexuality to actually talk about it with a close friend, confidante or at best someone you meet online. Then there were the conversations themselves tentative mumblings, explosions of guilt, bursts of jubilation, or stammering combinations of all three. Finally, most memorable of all, there was the stunned silence that often greeted the big "confession." All this drama made a certain sense.

Coming Out is NOT for everyone!!! But for some it’s the only choice and for others, it will never be an option.
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Friday, February 04, 2011

Do you feel like you’re living a lie? Are you keeping a secret from your family and friends?

  GRB EnteratnmentDo you feel like you’re living a lie? Are you keeping a secret from your family and friendsAre you ready to come clean and share your story? From the Producers of the hit show “Intervention” and a Major Cable Network comes a new documentary series about people who live double lives. Help & Support for Gay Husbands.  We are searching for people that are keeping a major secret from their loved ones, co-workers and friends.In the documentary TV series we will explore the worlds of everyday people who are living a double life and how, through the help of a therapist, their lives change after they expose their secret.
This is a positive show providing expert help. Those who are selected to participate will receive monetary comensation and free therapy. Anyone and everyone who meets the criteria is encouraged to apply.  Have friends that need help?  Tell us about it and how it is affecting your life keeping the lie for them.  If you are keeping a major secret from the ones you love the most and would like some help sharing your story, please email a brief description of your situation to: casting.jennifer@gmail.comPlease also include the following:NameLocation / CityContact Number(s)Photo*This is a Nationwide Casting

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Fulfillment of Your Desires ~ Harnessing the Infinite Power of Truth, Being Honest

We all have a deep longing then unforeseen events conspire to manifest it as a partnership with a woman. Gay Husband!
I’ve seen others come up with solutions to life big challenge.  Most of us simply dismiss these events as events as coincidence. The mistake is made not taking a closer look, for the word “coincidence” means happening at the same time, and these moments are actually glimpses of a place where everything happens at the same time, or synchronistically, a place where our past and present future are one.

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Friday, December 10, 2010

Ricky Martin ~ My Secret Life as a Gay Man Coming OUT

Ricky Martin My Secret Life as a Gay Man Coming OUT Ricky Martin ~ in his new book the singer reveals his lifelong struggles with his sexuality and explains how fatherhood gave him the courage to come out. He spent years denying the truth about his sexuality. In a candid memoir and interview, the singer reveals how having kids, coming out finding love! Have made him happy at last.
“I feel very strong,” says Martin (in September). “It took me a while, many years of running away from real emotions that were very natural.”
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Monday, October 11, 2010

New York gubernatorial hopeful slams gays - Anti-gay NYC attack laced with hate speech

Paladino: Kids shouldn't be 'brainwashed' into thinking homosexuality is acceptable


The Republican candidate for governor, Carl P. Paladino, told a gathering in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, on Sunday that children should not be “brainwashed” into thinking that homosexuality was acceptable, and criticized his opponent, Attorney General Andrew M. Cuomo, for marching in a gay pride parade earlier this year.

Addressing Orthodox Jewish leaders, Mr. Paladino described his opposition to same-sex marriage.

“That’s not how God created us,” he said, reading from a prepared address.

“I just think my children and your children would be much better off and much more successful getting married and raising a family, and I don’t want them brainwashed into thinking that homosexuality is an equally valid and successful option — it isn’t.”

And then, to applause at Congregation Shaarei Chaim, he said: “I didn’t march in the gay parade this year — the gay pride parade this year. My opponent did, and that’s not the example we should be showing our children.” reported that Mr. Paladino’s prepared text had included the sentence: “There is nothing to be proud of in being a dysfunctional homosexual.” But Mr. Paladino omitted the sentence in his speech.

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Friday, October 01, 2010

Right now in America there are over 2 Million Couples Secretly Struggling with Homosexuality in Their Marriages with Gay Husbands. Are you One of Them? Is He Gay?

Right now in America there are over 2 Million Couples Secretly Struggling with Homosexuality in Their Marriages. Are you One of Them? Is He Gay?

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Are you having intimacy issues? Are you suspicious about your husband’s late night activities? Or are you oblivious to a problem that could be putting your health and the livelihood of your family at risk? Don’t tell yourself that you’re simply being paranoid without taking a closer look!

Homosexuality can pop up at any time during a long-term relationship. Your spouse may have been experimenting with the “gay” lifestyle even before you met. Maybe he’s just using you as unwitting cover as he seeks playmates in the heterosexual world. For these types, the shame of being “outed” is so great that they will go to extremes to hide their lustful activities, even tricking a woman to marry them to appear normal in society. Sometimes it’s the nervous family who has rushed a young man into marriage out of a fear that his secret will be exposed. For others, homosexuality can appear later in life when men crave some escape from the monotony of careers and home life. Same-sex experimentation is also connected to drug or alcohol abuse. Crystal meth and other narcotics are proven to lower inhibitions and to drive people to take incredible risks to feed their habits.

For the wife unsure about her husband’s proclivities, the most important thing is to first confirm your suspicions. Drawing on the expertise of spiritual and medical professionals, Christwire has put together a list of 15 commonly-accepted characteristics of men struggling with homosexuality within a marriage:

1) Secretive late night use of cellphones and computers

Porn addiction is closely associated with homosexuality and a secretive nature implies he’s trying to hide something from you. Be on the lookout for a man who doesn’t want to web surf or answer phone calls in your presence. Texting is another favorite trick used by adulterers. For the sake of trust, a married couple should share everything, including phone logs, email accounts, chat friends and website histories.

2) Looks at other men in a flirtatious way

When you’re out in public, does he spend too much time looking at other men? Is he fond of winking at people? Does he get visibly upset when someone does not return a compliment about his physical appearance?

3) Feigning attention in church and prayer groups

Have you noticed a lack of interest in spiritual issues? Does it ever seem as if he’s just using church as an excuse to spend time around young men? Does he volunteer to mentor in all-male groups?
4) Overly fastidious about his appearance and the home

Natural men have a certain amount of grit about them. They sweat and they smell. Homosexuals often abhor this sort of thing and will also be incredibly particular about the cleanliness of the home. Does your man tweeze his eyebrows, trim his pubic hairs or use face moisturizers? Is he picky about brand name shampoos? Does he spend more time getting ready for a night out than you do?
5) Gym membership but no interest in sports

Gay men use the gym as a place to socialize and to have secret liaisons in the bathrooms. They like to work out their bodies without the competition of sports play. Afterward, they use the showers and steam rooms to engage in sexual activity beyond the prying eyes of women. If your man returns from the gym too exhausted to talk or have sex, that is a worrisome sign.

6) Clothes that are too tight and too “trendy”

Gay men don’t need words to communicate their availability for sex “hook ups.” They silently broadcast the news by showing off their lean, hard bodies in designer clothing labels. If your husband owns skinny jeans and looks at his buttocks in the mirror or if he wears an inordinate number of small-sized t-shirts, it is probably worthwhile to pay more attention to his private activities.
7) Strange sexual demands

Fetishism is a sign that a man is seeking a harder thrill beyond the normal intimacy of heterosexual relations. The woman may not appeal to the deep desires that are coming to the surface as the marriage drags on. If there is a sudden interest in sodomy, sadomasochism, lubricants, role-play, sex toys or other non-traditional intercourse methods, this is clearly an indication of deep emotional abnormalities.
8) More interested in the men than the women in pornographic films

Pornography is a dangerous element in any marriage but there are many Christians who feel watching it does add something to their sexual lives. If you have gone down this road and find that your man perks up at the sight of the men in these sorts of videos, you should be concerned. If he selects films because of specific male actors, this is an obvious sign that he is suffering from a crisis of ego and desire.
9) Travels frequently to big cities or Asia

Some husbands will spend a great deal of money traveling far from home to hide their deplorable same-sex actions. Big cities offer indulgence of every kind. From gay bars and clubs to prostitutes and sex bathhouses, a man seeking encounters can find them easily if he’s so inclined. Is there ever really a good excuse for a husband to visit Thailand or San Francisco without his wife?
10) Too many friendly young male friends

Someone who makes an extra effort to surround themselves with younger men should raise concerns in any community. If this is the case with your husband, ask yourself if he prefers their company to that of women. Do they touch each other or embrace in long hugs? Do they exchange expensive, personal gifts like scarves or cologne?
11) Sassy, sarcastic and ironic around his friends

A man who is secretly engaged in homosexual activity with others may exhibit feminine qualities when they get together in a group. In a sense, he has “let his hair down” and this will be seen in excessive back talk and speaking with one’s hands.
12) Love of pop culture

It’s quite common for young men to enjoy the science fiction end of popular culture, but when your husband becomes overly obsessed with romantic and feminine shows, that is cause for alarm. Gossip Websites, Glee, and The Golden Girls are three well-documented icons of the gay movement that genuine heterosexual men avoid.
13) Extroverted about his bare chest in public

Does he go shirtless in the back yard or at picnics when other men are around? Does he wear a speedo at the beach? Does it seem like he’s purposely standing right in the middle of a crowd to show off his chest and arm muscles, peppering people with questions about how strong he looks? He may be craving physical affirmation from other men and desperately looking for hints of shared desires in those around him.
14) Sudden heavy drinking

Sometimes people dealing with an unbearable emotional issue like homosexuality will turn to alcohol to hide their distress. Does your man disappear on drinking binges for long hours without answering his cellphone? Is there a strange odor about him when he returns, some strange mix of cigarettes and gel? Does he cry frequently?

15) Ladies, have you dated men in the past who turned out to be gay?

This is an important question to ask yourself when your marriage starts to have problems. Statistics have shown that women who have encountered gay men romantically in the past are the most likely to repeat this mistake in future relationships. If you answered yes, you should ask yourself whether you’re honestly looking for a man or just a shopping companion. Is sharing gossip more important to you than raising children? Ultimately, it’s a question of getting your priorities straight!

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Dennis Schleicher
Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-mail Diaries

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Fed up with the Fact that Men have a Shorter Shelf Life than Sushi? Straight Acting by Angelo Pezzote

Fed up with the Fact that Men have a Shorter Shelf Life than Sushi? Straight Acting by Angelo Pezzote

Straight Acting: Gay Men, Masculinity and Finding True Love

Finding, let alone building, a strong relationship can still be challenging for gay men. The reason? Masculinity. All men, gay or straight, have been socialized to believe that to be overtly gay is unmanly and shameful. To compensate, many gay men adopt a macho, "straight acting" pose that blocks them from being their full selves, expressing their true feelings and forging real, lasting connections.

In Straight Acting, Angelo Pezzote ( encourages readers to go beyond limiting ideas of how "real" men should behave, and leave behind out-dated ways of being that create stumbling blocks to deeper intimacy. Drawing on his years of experience as a gay psychotherapist and advice columnist, he offers practical and thoughtful relationship strategies, with tips on subjects that include coming out, dating, how to avoid falling for a player, how to maintain a sizzling, satisfying sex life, navigating open relationships, and much more. Most of all, he delivers crucial insights on the importance of ditching the macho act and learning to be true to yourself. Whether you're single and sick of it, wanting to move closer to your partner, or wondering how to meet someone for the very first time, let Angelo show you how to get real and get him. Put yourself out there to get--and keep--the love you want.

"There is no such thing as a 'real man,' only millions of men -- straight and gay -- trying to convince themselves and others that they have the right stuff. In Straight Acting, Angelo Pezzote peers behind the curtain to uncover the human costs of this relentless masculine performance. His immediate concern is gay men, but all men who seek love, intimacy, and most of all self-respect can benefit from the honesty and wisdom in these pages.”

I encourage all to order Straight Acting
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Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-mail Diaries
Straight Acting: Gay Men, Masculinity and Finding True Love By Angelo Pezzote